Tuesday, December 20, 2011

42 Years

“It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.”

Gene and Coonie 1969

Ah young love sometimes works out to be old comfortable love.

Communication is the cornerstone of a good relationship.  Despite my husbands uncanny ability to know my many moods..he cannot read my mind. He is not Superman. We are much better communicators than we were 42 years ago.  I try to use words like I instead of You.. “I feel tired.” versus “You should know I feel tired.” “ I am confused.. what can I help you do?” versus “You obviously are trying to do something that just won’t work.”

Old love and communication: The kind where you can finish each others sentences, the kind where you know when the other is thinking the exact same thing you are..you catch each others eye and smile..and later you compare notes and laugh.  The kind where just holding hands is an expression of support encouragement and undying love. The kind that asks “What is on your agenda today and how can I help you?”

Annoyances: Oh there are many.. Today I will share a few things that irritate him..as I see it:

When I chew bubble gum and blow bubbles and pop them…although really good bubble gum is hard to find nowadays.

When I chew gum noisily with my mouth open..the snapping of gum nearly drives him nuts.

He hates my sleepwalking and talking and screaming. I cannot blame him..I don’t like it much either.

He dislikes sand on the floor..occasionally I will come in the house and grab something without taking off my shoes. For shame..for shame.

He  gets grumpy when I shave my legs in the tub and forget to rinse it out.

It annoys him if I am right and he is wrong..sometimes the discussion can go on for days.

Sometimes I have time management problems..He likes to be on time..AIS ( That is A** in Seat) times are discussed and agreed upon, so no one is waiting..although sometimes I get to the car before he does..just to make a point..and then I announce the time especially if he is a minute or two late..yup it is all about communication.

So yes..we like to annoy each other sometimes:) 

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37 comments:

  1. Oh! Congratulations to the both of you!!! You two have always sounded to me like a perfect match...like you found your other half. I love the wedding picture!! Ahhh! Young love! Yes. Congrats! Hope you do something that warms your cockles and makes you both smile...words or no words. May you have many, many more! :):)

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  2. Papa and I are already like this even though we havent been Married that long. See we both went through terrible marriages in our past, we understand eachother, when we got married we wrote our own vows of how we feel about eachother. We complete eachother it is rare to fined your soul mate and that we have done as you and your hubby have. Congradulations to you both true love conquers all ! Wonderful photo.

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  3. Congratulations. My wife and I are only half your married years, but we often remark about being a comfortable old pair. We both have to be early, so time is not an issue....until your throw one of the daughters in the mix, and then its usually a nailbiter.

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  4. Happy Anniversary. Enjoy your special day.

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  5. That is a milestone to be commended! I love your wedding dress and veil. How well I remember that dress style. You are right about the communication thing - - it's all how we word it. But how do we get them to remember to tell us important stuff?!!!!!
    Enjoy your day! I know you are celebrating that he is here to celebrate with you today!!!

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  6. Happy Anniversary. I haven't been married that long but I know exactly what you mean.

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  7. You were only 18 years old a young one at that, congratulations upon 42 years of marriage..that in itself is quite an accomplishment, and it sounds as if you are very happy together..my hubby & I only 37 and 1/2 years, we don't finish each others sentences but pretty darned close to it, we have a lot in common and had a lot in common as small ones when we met, always something about him I liked, he said the same thing..Congratulations again, may your love be happy as it has for the past 42 years!

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  8. What a great picture! Congratulations on 42 years of wedded... adventures! We all know marriage isn't bliss, at least most of the time. But it's great to have a life partner who travels the winding road of life with us. You are very fortunate. I had to try three times before I hit on the right one!

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  9. Congratulations to you!!!!!!!!!! Love your picture too. I'm finishing up today and tiding up the house - get the kids tomorrow! So have to be done!!!!! Have a great day! Oh I love that gum chewing irritate him too! I think that is Steve biggest complaint of me too! We need to find some good gum together! ha ha!

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  10. Congratulations, Far Side and Far Guy!

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  11. Such a beautiful wedding photo. Lovely bride and handsome groom. You were such darling kids!

    Congratulations on your long and successful marriage. So glad that Far Guy is better.

    Both of you -take care of yourselves and each other.

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  12. It all keeps you alive. Marriages take on their own personality of one or they just don't make it.

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  13. You have no idea how timely this post is! Communication is a struggle for the new relationship I am in and we are working hard on it every single time we talk. But we are at least talking! Congratulations on 42 years of NEW love!

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  14. Oh, I did forget to say congratulations.

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  15. Congratulations! And thanks for teaching me how to improve on my communication!

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  16. Oh I love your post Connie. Congrats on 42 years. That's a long time to annoy someone but ya'll annoy each other and love it. It does come down to knowing each others thoughts before you even speak them. That comes with being together for so long. I was there and left it 11 years ago. shame on me,maybe.

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  17. Ah- lovely post! Many many congratulations!

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  18. Woohoo!!! Now that's reason to celebrate! Sounds like you two love birds are holdin' hands with you perfect match.

    Have a great day celebratin' your anniversary and your 42 year love story...may you enjoy many, many more.

    God bless and spoil each other a bit today! :o)

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  19. BTW: I try not to chew gum in public.

    I chew gum like and old Mama cow chews cud!!!

    It's not pretty!

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  20. Wow, 42 years! Married so young, and yet such a success story! And we get to read all about it:) Congratulations to the both of you, and here's to many more years of married bliss (with the occasional hiss)!

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  21. Congratulations!! It's not always easy, is it?? The younger generation doesn't realize that marriage takes work and commitment...and communication...Here's wishing the both of you many more years of driving each other nuts...

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  22. Copngratulations to you. My anniversary is tomorrow. December is a good month.
    Merry Christmas

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  23. Very humorous but very true. What ever you're doing right, keep on doing it for another 42 years.
    Love the glasses!

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  24. Beautiful picture. Happy Anniversary!

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  25. Love is grand that is for sure! I tell the hubby that I would never trade him for anything (because I really don't want to have to train another one at this late date ;)

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  26. I love your wedding picture! I wanted hair like that but mine always got frizzy!
    We've made it 40 years... and you are right, communication, forgiveness and shrugging off those annoyances are key!
    Congrats!

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  27. Congratulations on your anniversary! Someone once called marriage "and endless sleepover in your worst clothes." Every so often, when we are both looking pretty scraggly, one of us will say, "And endless sleepover..." and we both laugh. It was thoughtful of you to list the ways you annoy him and not vice versa. That's how I know it's still love!

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  28. 42 years! Congratulations! I wore my hair like that 42 years ago too. And.........my hubby hates everything about gum chewing. I rarely chew gum around him now

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  29. Congratulations! Happy Anniversary! It's 3 years for my hubby and I!!! Enjoy every year you have together :)

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  30. So many wonderful congrats to you two. It take a special couple to survive, and thrive this many years of marriage.

    It's quite the accomplishment.

    Jen @ Muddy Boot Dreams

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  31. I hear ya'. Happy Happy Anniversary to you two love birds!

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  32. Congratulations! I think the ability to annoy is a must for a long and happy marriage. I practice it frequently!

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  33. A little belated, but congratulations. 42 years! Means something is working right for the two of you. You really are a great pair.

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Thanks for stopping by! I appreciate your comments! If you have a question I will try to answer it here. Connie