Sometimes it helps me to write about something that is stuck in my craw. Today that concerns a 18 year old young lady. She comes by the museum often…she did not graduate last spring.
Last year she thought she would graduate..then I suspect that since she lives apart from her parents.. she slept in ..and missed too many days of school to graduate.
She showed up at the museum..I asked her “Why aren’t you in school?” She replied “Because I am going to go to night school..I hate getting up early in the morning to go to school.” I asked “When do you start night classes?” She replied “I am not sure.” I said “You better get your butt in gear..just incase it doesn’t work out..maybe you should go back to high school this year.” Nope she hates school and she hates getting up in the morning. She is looking for a job..she had a job for three weeks then she was let go..she said “For having a bad attitude.”
I did everything I could do but stand on my head to encourage her to go back to school. I told her that without a HS diploma you are stuck with menial jobs that don’t pay well. I told her to think beyond “small town” and to further her education she needs that diploma.
How does she survive? Many people are enabling her. Her parents must hand out cash on a regular basis…since they are divorced I am sure they do not communicate. Her Mom pays her cell phone bill. She lives in a place with another gal where she only has to pay utilities ( another Mom is enabling her child). So if you only pay part of the utilities and buy a few groceries and have enough money for gas..what more do you need? I think Daddy bought the car and covers the insurance (another enabler). Her Grandparents ( all four) must dole out cash too..on a weekly basis.
I feel sorry for her. No one cares enough about her to see that she went to school..to see that she was not going to graduate. Someone dropped the ball. Someone was not doing their job. MANY people were not doing their job..Teachers, Principals, Advisors and Parents.
How does this happen this day and age? How can the parents be so blind to the education of their child? The child does not need a car or a cellphone..both should be taken away if she cannot pay the bill. She should have never been allowed to leave home before she was 18..but that is water under the bridge and nothing can be done about that.
I know what I would do if she were my child. I would pay the car insurance and the cell phone bill IF her fanny was parked on a desk in school. If not she can walk everywhere and write letters to her friends.
A long time ago when our oldest daughter was in college..she had a tough semester and wanted to quit. I said “Sure, go ahead and quit, I can put you to work here at the resort for your room and board.” She stayed in school:)