No not the rain kind of sprinkled or sprinkling the clothes with water and rolling them up and putting them in a plastic bag so they could be ironed properly.
A permanent sprinkling.
Notice the white colored ash in the grass? Notice the urn? This is the grave of my Maternal Grandparents. Their youngest daughter Karen died May 24, 2017 at the age of 65. Recently her children brought her ashes from Florida to be sprinkled on her parents graves. Better late than never.
No I did not look in the urn to see if it was empty.
As far as I know they did not contact anyone while they were here. We had hoped to have a grave side gathering when they brought her ashes back. My Mother and two of her brothers are still alive and it would have helped give them some closure.
Far Side
These sorts of things happen probably too often. I myself don't know where most of my mom's ashes ended up as my dad didn't wait for my brother and I to spread them despite me asking to be present multiple times before they were scattered. Sometimes grief just clouds judgement or at least the desires of others.
ReplyDeleteI am happy that your Aunt's ashes were brought back and sprinkled on her parents grave, but her children should have told the family so they could have attended and had closure for her death. Sorry to hear that this happened.
ReplyDeleteThat seems wrong to me!
ReplyDeleteThat is a bit odd but at the same time who knows what their reasoning was?
ReplyDeletePeople are all different in ways they grieve. I too would have preferred closure with other family members.
ReplyDeleteThat's a shame, especially for your mom and her remaining siblings.
ReplyDeleteA first cousin of mine lost her son. She too was going to place his ashes at the grandparents grave. I guess it happened as they from Arizona did not contact any of the family. I wonder if you are going to have to rescue that urn as it won't be attached.
ReplyDeleteYou can still have your own ceremony - with this one being so long from the death it is only another moment in time. And it is worth it so you all don't carry any resentment needlessly.
ReplyDeleteEveryone handles grief so differently. The need to do this "alone" must have been there.
ReplyDeleteI think sometimes people just don't think clearly or believe others wouldn't be interested. I would sure like to give them the benefit of the doubt. I also wonder about the scattering of ashes. It doesn't give family a place to go. It may sound silly because I know my mother isn't in her grave, but it does give my heart peace sometimes to go and just sit and talk to her where she's buried. Silly? Probably. But it gives me peace.
ReplyDeleteBlessings and love,
Betsy
Closure is so very important. I'm sorry this worked out like it did. Sigh
ReplyDeleteI understand why those of you who were left out are unhappy. Like those ashes, you just have to let it go. Send them one of your beautiful cards, acknowledging their decision and wishing them peace of mind. That will help you too.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry. Please give your mom and her siblings an extra hug. I am sure there are hurt feelings. It should have been handled with more sensitivity.
ReplyDeleteThat is so sad that you weren't able to get together and share the grief...it can bring people together or it can keep them apart. That is a good idea for the ashes though. Amy has Jim's so it would be nice to have them sprinkled on my gravestone after I die.
ReplyDeleteIt's hard to understand the things people do. It's really too bad the children didn't let anyone know of their plans.
ReplyDeleteI have cousins who ignore all the rest of us cousins. But we all got along great as little kids and teenagers. One wonders what happened when they became adults since they never contatced any of us. Oh, well, I do have a favorite cousin and we have always kept in contact, now more than ever (texting is easy lol). I'm sure Karen was welcomed into Jesus' loving arms and is reaping her heavenly rewards now. Hugs, my friend!
ReplyDeleteUmph is all I can think to say.
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