tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post3995366682578943493..comments2024-03-28T03:34:46.775-05:00Comments on Far Side of Fifty: The PlotFar Side of Fiftyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07995757632158408442noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-69759904324861962242015-04-21T10:17:29.370-05:002015-04-21T10:17:29.370-05:00Yes, that last line is the most important one. Do...Yes, that last line is the most important one. Doing it for each other--cause, odds are, you won't go at the same time. ;) Lawn maintenance would do it for me, too, BTW. :)Ritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02043285884495492598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-90208804232259300252015-04-21T07:31:59.946-05:002015-04-21T07:31:59.946-05:00Just yesterday Smart Guy and I went to a seminar t...Just yesterday Smart Guy and I went to a seminar to learn how to fill out our End of Life directives. We've had our wills for ten years but didn't realize until recently how important those Advance Directives are. Good for you both for doing this difficult but necessary task. A planner right to the last, you are! :-)DJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-43424545715883970202015-04-20T22:52:40.208-05:002015-04-20T22:52:40.208-05:00As a frequent mourner, I agree with Far Guy: those...As a frequent mourner, I agree with Far Guy: those gotta-have-something-to-keep-me-busy mourners appreciate having something constructive to do with their time then.<br /><br />However, let's hope neither of you will have that on your to-do list for years to come.Jacqi Stevenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03471698670217119444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-9335274680575240582015-04-20T18:33:37.868-05:002015-04-20T18:33:37.868-05:00I agree! We did the same thing a couple of years ...I agree! We did the same thing a couple of years ago. Although now I am wondering if we should change the spot we chose in case other members of the family want to be buried in the little cemetery by us! Well, congratulations anyway on getting those important things done! Diane Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12415549569316468139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-15659458123763394122015-04-20T14:39:10.414-05:002015-04-20T14:39:10.414-05:00I am IMPRESSED!!!! Your family will thank you fo...I am IMPRESSED!!!! Your family will thank you for all the details you take care of and honestly I've seen too many families (including my own) torn by those things "left for the mourners". Kick Far Guy in the butt and make him get'er done! :)MTWagginhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17823827748782425907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-12247161783537848712015-04-20T14:09:39.043-05:002015-04-20T14:09:39.043-05:00True - you are easing the way for those left behin...True - you are easing the way for those left behind.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-41212425776345499412015-04-20T14:04:08.540-05:002015-04-20T14:04:08.540-05:00Both of us will be scattered to the wind on the fa...Both of us will be scattered to the wind on the farm where I grew up. No cemetery lot, no casket, etc. And my hubby says we will just let my daughter do as she will (as executor) with all the stuff.Linda Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17237332954767037400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-82766660296428796542015-04-20T13:38:10.202-05:002015-04-20T13:38:10.202-05:00A final resting place is something Poppy never wan...A final resting place is something Poppy never wanted to talk about. Now that my sister and I know that we have three plots along side Daddy's grave it takes away some of the worry, for me anyway. Glad you got that taken care of. :)Henny Pennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05958386938311591314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-74015871637322865082015-04-20T13:05:42.062-05:002015-04-20T13:05:42.062-05:00You blog reminded me that my father in law gave us...You blog reminded me that my father in law gave us directions to where we were going to be buried and the color of the stone to match everyone in his family. We both are enough of rebels to go find someplace else. It is unnerving to have people plan these things for you so they will make their family look good. Looks like you have a suitable place to see the stars. L. D. https://www.blogger.com/profile/02270923121962761209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-42343894150500716602015-04-20T13:03:33.696-05:002015-04-20T13:03:33.696-05:00We haven't done any of it yet but I did tell P...We haven't done any of it yet but I did tell Papa that if I go first just put me in the back 40 in the open fields near the woods so I can enjoy the nature and the night sky's and have the sun shine down on me to ! lol ! We like the night sky's to as we both enjoy Astronomy and have a few telescopes . A bit morbid but it is something we all have to do and think about eventually isn't it ? ! Have a good day !Country Gal https://www.blogger.com/profile/08693944554850315123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-21571924836235913982015-04-20T12:57:56.853-05:002015-04-20T12:57:56.853-05:00We have it all taken care of , just sitting here a...We have it all taken care of , just sitting here and pittle waiting on God .Patsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17862394699499538591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-82328145546874745242015-04-20T12:06:02.780-05:002015-04-20T12:06:02.780-05:00I am one who does not make many plans for the end....I am one who does not make many plans for the end. I know where I want my ashes spread. I have some of the things done on your list. Maybe I'll borrow your list. I like Far Guy's attitude.Leave se jobs for the mourners. Oh yah , I'm not having a funeral or memorial. Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17996243850279671523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-35198777460679147672015-04-20T11:23:09.730-05:002015-04-20T11:23:09.730-05:00When we decided to pick out our plots the kids all...When we decided to pick out our plots the kids all decided they wanted plots right by us. So now we have a Brown family are of plots!<br /><br />Linda<br />http://coloradofarmlife.wordpress.com<br />https://coloradofarmlife.wordpress.com/sherlock-boomer<br />Terry and Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11016496778254072639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-31250422411958790432015-04-20T10:49:31.425-05:002015-04-20T10:49:31.425-05:00I think you have done a wonderful thing for your f...I think you have done a wonderful thing for your family. Having been through the opposite -- nothing planned, nothing done, no clues left to what was desired -- I will do the same for my children one day soon. Cynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16035113274497372396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-7439828238067928652015-04-20T10:38:28.511-05:002015-04-20T10:38:28.511-05:00I agree - the more that is done the more helpful i...I agree - the more that is done the more helpful it is.... many years I assisted those left behind with paperwork and sometimes with estate items (it is a lot of work) ~ that seems to be the cemetery of choice (it is very nice).Leahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18138747690602990437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-40111482518320567602015-04-20T10:13:14.175-05:002015-04-20T10:13:14.175-05:00September Virgo??? You are wise, though, to do thi...September Virgo??? You are wise, though, to do this now. I've been a power of attorney and executrix three times, and it's not easy when all wishes have not been written down.Muffiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04542678482763101104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-43546335888647212622015-04-20T09:26:19.296-05:002015-04-20T09:26:19.296-05:00Good to get that kind of thing done, right? I have...Good to get that kind of thing done, right? I have not done an obit because I do not want one and they are not required by law. Good to have an opinion about how the cemetery is kept, though. That's important.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-80073086226143081312015-04-20T09:24:48.843-05:002015-04-20T09:24:48.843-05:00This does make it much less stressful for those re...This does make it much less stressful for those remaining. I see many bad decisions made because this is a highly emotional time. I'm very proud you are thinking of your remaining family by doing this now.Gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04219479223227928561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-43512456818145782302015-04-20T08:48:03.823-05:002015-04-20T08:48:03.823-05:00You are more organized than me!You are more organized than me!Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08938874724231860923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-10849293819817294712015-04-20T08:21:18.560-05:002015-04-20T08:21:18.560-05:00I've checked all those items off of my list, t...I've checked all those items off of my list, too. <br /><br />Fremont County has a cemetery tax, so the grounds are maintained in all the public cemeteries. I cannot bear to see an unkept cemetery. Tired Teacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17285635623675889289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-44848047304807841702015-04-20T07:17:28.391-05:002015-04-20T07:17:28.391-05:00Such organization - and forethought. A friend of m...Such organization - and forethought. A friend of mine still shudders from her duty as serial executor for family members. It can be a colossal task. <br />We do already have our plots - I think they were bought in a giant block long ago by my husband's family. I have mixed emotions about being buried with some of them and it's not my favorite cemetery. It's well maintained but so boring. All the stones are the same, square rectangles flat to the ground. <br />Martyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02366449267039641100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-62490482456973118422015-04-20T06:45:22.862-05:002015-04-20T06:45:22.862-05:00Hubby and I have done all that already except pick...Hubby and I have done all that already except pick out the plot. I don't want to be buried. I have asked my son (who loves climbing mountains) to please scatter my ashes from the mountain of his choice. Hubby wants a plot but since we may move we haven't picked a cemetery yet. I don't think leaving anything to chance is a good idea. And I sure do know what you mean about lawn mowing at the cemetery. The cemetery where my parents are buried is a disgrace. Glad you got all that out of the way.linda mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08203742811516417039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5456722259350114571.post-38606324832887247062015-04-20T05:47:28.028-05:002015-04-20T05:47:28.028-05:00We don't have the plots yet but have done the ...We don't have the plots yet but have done the legal paperwork like you. I have made notes for my service but need to elaborate on the songs. I have 2-4 hymns I want compiled with a verse of each sung - - - UPbeat - - thank you. I don't want them drug out like a funeral dirge. I need to work on the obits cuz the kids don't have a clue about those who passed before us. One BIG thing - - I need to pick out the pictures for the digital collage. I am definitely not leaving those for them. It worries me what they might select! I think the mourners have enough to do so won't leave them much - - - - other than cleaning out the house - - hahaha. That in itself will take some time even if we have been paring down. You are smart to be prepared.Lyndahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12404589772713955710noreply@blogger.com