Far Guy’s Great Grandmother divorced her husband in 1913 or 1914. They had ten children together, her husband Winfield …some called him “Winnie” was a drinker and a wife beater.
I think.. just my opinion that Martha was greatly attracted to Winfield, she was willing to overlook his shortcomings…her love would make him change. ( Play the violin music now.)
One child lead to more children…more fights and more “making up.” They were not well to do, but her father and mother were. They secured her a place to live that Winfield could not sell. I am certain that her father Xaver Aleck did what he could to protect her and the children, both of her parents died in 1903. She must have felt very alone.
Much later something happened…not sure what…it was the straw that broke the camels back…she was pregnant and the baby died. Soon after the oldest son beat the living daylights out of his father and threw him out of the house.
Martha divorced her husband. At that time she had nine children ages 3, 6,10,12,13,16,19, 22 and 24. The two oldest would marry that year. She was raising seven kids alone. I have heard that the kids would see their Dad drunk in the streets and ignore him.
The oldest son was Far Guys Grandfather and in early 1914 he would leave Logan and come to Minnesota to settle down. ( Some say…if he had stayed he would have ended up killing his father…so it was best he came to Minnesota.) He did not return to Logan for years, none of the children attended “Winnies” funeral in 1936. After Winfield died Martha said “He can’t hurt me anymore.”
I suppose it was quite a scandal to get a divorce back in 1913…in small town Logan Iowa I am certain the tongues were a wagging, everyone knew what Winfield had ben doing…but behind closed doors I bet many women were thinking that Martha was very brave. When Martha died in 1944 she was laid to rest next to Winfield in the cemetery in Logan.
Some women are so stupid they think that they can change men, it is impossible, they are what they are, if they drink before you get married odds are they are going to continue drinking. If they hit you once while dating odds are when you factor in a few kids and married life stress that the hitting will become a beating. If they can’t hold down a job what makes you think marriage will help? No amount of love will change them. Love does not conquer all.
I am not a fan of divorce, especially when there are children. In some cases it is the only way a woman can survive. I think it was that way for Martha …she divorced so she could survive. 24 years married to a drunken bum and wife beater was long enough.
Back in 1913 only one out of a thousand people sought out a divorce.